With the 2nd two - try to find women with common interest. Here's a poem about listening to folks When I ask you to listen to meand you start giving advice,you have not done what I asked. Irrational feelings make sense when we understandwhat's behind them. And if you want to talk,wait a minute for your turn;and I'll listen to you.
If you have poor listening skills, there are books you can read and classes you can take. Ten cents will get you both Dear Abby and Bill Graham in the same newspaper. And when that's clear, the answers are obviousand I don't need advice.
You are a good looking dude, so don't rush it, they will come to you.
You can keep a general profile but be more specific so it can catch the interest of woman you might like. But, when you accept as a single fact that I do feel what I feel,no matter how irrational, then I can quit trying to convinceyou and get to the business of understanding what'sbehind this irrational feeling.
When you do something for me that I can and need to do for myself,you contribute to my fear and weakness.
Don’t worry about getting a relationship, just focus on becoming more comfortable and friendlier with fairer sex and things will fall into place. These brave men & women who have heeded the call to duty & you hate them for it?? You know, nobody's keeping you from moving out of the country you have so many issues with. I think you should seek help and try to get a hold of things before dating.
If you are staring at a wall then the women assume you aren't listening to them. If you aren't then you need ask yourself why you aren't listening to them. Start out small (e.g., dance with a gal in the club, invite her back to the table of friends, and engage her in chit chat, make no serious moves, etc.). You hate our military, that would give their life protecting you if needed?? And thankful that there are people who are willing to put themselves in danger for me & for my country. OP - its sounds like you might be suffering from PTSD (very common in those returning from the war).
Ask them (and any platonic gal pals you might have) for tips, guidance and pointers. Once you start dancing and letting loose and having fun ( without getting sloshed) the ladies will see the confidence and bingo bango bongo, things will get easier on the dating front.