Tips dating commitment phobe
So now we’re at this point: Girl has poured months or of love and obsession into this guy, hoping he’ll one day come around.Guy has become emotionally dependent on the girl for her love and support, but he knows in his heart that the situation isn’t what he actually wants.In these arrangements, you’ll notice that when one side starts to stray, the other side will undermine them.If the guy starts getting himself together, the girl will find some way to subtly undermine his progress – usually through comfort, but sometimes through less pleasant means.If the girl starts to give up on him, he’ll find some way to subtly give her hope for some kind of future. What usually ends up happening is that sooner or later, the “better thing” the guy was waiting for appears and the moment it does, he disappears. I don’t know if it was Hollywood movies, music, TV, an ever-increasing sense of entitlement, a decline in social perceptiveness across the populous… If you’re seeing a guy for a few weeks, everything is up in the air – just relax and let things run their course without being worried.After all, he doesn’t want to lose his emotional crutch/sexual outlet security blanket – then he’d be not only emotionally weakened, but also alone. If you’re the guy, this isn’t such a bad situation since he was able to enjoy a cozy comfortable pseudo-relationship in between. But if you’ve spent the majority of your free time with a guy for the last couple of months – you eat together, sleep together and support each other emotionally – and he’s making no effort to lock you down…What ends up happening is he becomes dependent on her to be his emotional crutch.
The girl will make sure that he’s as emotionally dependent on him as she can get him to be.Fear of commitment may be caused by a number of stimuli including failed past relationships, misplaced trust or dysfunctional early family life.